Sexual Healing – 3: Having sex at any time of the month

TCS Advice 30 January 2014

I want to have sex with my girlfriend while she’s on her period, but I don’t know if she’ll think it’s creepy. What can I do? 

She might think it’s creepy – then again she might not; she might not; she might even find it hot and sexy, and something that turns her on. Thing is, you’ll never know unless you ask her – and it is important that you are both willing to open up to honest and non-judgemental discussion in your relationship. If an act is put forward that both partners are interested in, and something they both want to experience (and if it's safe), then it’s not being creepy – more like adventurous!

Relationships are supposed to be open and safe places in which both partners can discuss the things they feel less comfortable about, as well as the things they find sexually, without having to worry whether or not their partner may find it creepy. It’s conversation like this that allows you to explore new ground that you may find enticing, and that can lead you to undiscovered pleasures. You might find you discover surprising and beautiful things about your partner – and yourself!

It is important, as with all relationships, that you both familiarise yourselves with the facts and options available to you. Though the risk of pregnancy is greatly reduced with sex during menstruation there is still a slight risk present. The risk of transmitting STDs during menstruation is also slightly elevated; it may therefore be advisable to use a condom to err on the safe side.

People have been having sex for a very long time, and when you’re in committed relationship, there is a risk that the sex may wind up monotonous and boring – it’s doing things differently that keeps things exciting and allows relationships to prosper and continue. So get talking to her!

Check out last week's column here.